Domestic Violence
In recent years, LGBTIQ survivors of domestic
violence have begun speaking out about their experiences in
increasing numbers. New organizations have been created to
address the issue and provide support to survivors.
Historically, though, there has been an
overwhelming silence about LGBTIQ domestic violence. Many
people still don't believe that LGBTIQ domestic violence really
exists, and people who are victims are often ashamed to tell
their communities or families.
In fact, numerous studies have shown that
violence in heterosexual and LGBTIQ relationships occurs at
approximately the same rate (one in four).
Domestic violence in LGBTIQ couples is largely
the same as it is in heterosexual couples. One partner
maintains control over the other person and limits his or her
freedom to socialize. The abused partner becomes isolated and
confused. The abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional,
psychological, economic, and/or verbal. The abuse may not
consistently happen all of the time — there are sometimes sweet
and close periods that are interrupted by unpredictable
violence.
After the violence, the abuser may be apologetic, asking
for forgiveness. Many survivors find that when they move to end
the relationship, their partner may increase the threats and
manipulation. The abuse often escalates over time. If there
are children living in the home, they are terrorized by the
violence, even if they are not hit themselves.
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